So far, I hope you have gained insight into personal growth. As the month comes to an end, I have personal growth questions for you that you need to ask yourself often. These questions will help you put your life to perspective and become accountable for who you are as a person. Personal growth has led me to higher heights and I have gotten to learn so much about myself. I love the fact that by asking myself some of these questions I have gotten answers to why I get stuck or feel a particular way.
I have divided the personal growth questions into various sections depending on the frequency and time period to ask yourself. Some of these questions may be quite hard especially if you are beginning to learn about yourself. As you progress with the journey of knowing yourself, they will become easier to answer. It is also important to be very honest with yourself because you cannot afford to lie to yourself. You also don’t want to miss the bonus section of this post.
End of the Month
Because it is about end month, I choose to begin with this category. Get your notebook out and start to truly answer these questions.
1. Have I learned something new?
What new skills have you gained – a new language, sport, technique, profession, certification? Anything new that you did this month and have never paid as much attention to it before.
2. Have I spent time with myself?
Time to be honest. In a day how many minutes do you take out for yourself? What about in a week? Or for the month, did you at least spend a Saturday thinking about yourself, taking care of yourself, organizing your space, writing your goals, planning how to accomplish your goals, thinking about your behaviours and dreaming – ha!
3. Am I happy with my progress?
If you had goals, have you made any progress? And if you just dove into the month, do you feel like you are a better person compared to the previous month? Is there anything you have done better or worse this month?
4. Did I appreciate everything and everybody around me?
Let us be real, sometimes we forget to appreciate. Whether it is your spouse, partner, friend, child, parent, whoever; did you spend time to think about them and their impact in your life? Appreciation is not about buying gifts or sending cards, it is about you knowing that somebody means something to you. Whenever you do that, these thoughts will manifest in action for example; you will be more gentle with them or call to check in once in a while and other sweet things. It is the thought first then the action follows.
5. Was I committed to my journey?
Were you always ready to overcome any obstacles? Were you willing to learn and make it work? Did you push yourself to accomplish your goals?
6. Did I compare myself?
The inevitable. For some reason, it just happens. My answer would constantly be yes but I look forward to the day that I will answer no. However, not often is also an answer.
7. What lessons did I learn from my failures?
Whether you failed to accomplish a goal or did something you were not supposed to do, what did you learn from it? If you were to start something or do something, why didn’t you do it?
8. What were my biggest distractions?
Distractions limit your productivity. Was it laziness, lack of motivation, social media, etc? An app I like to track what I spend most of my time doing is Rescue Time. At the end of the week, I get a full report of where a big chunk of my time goes.
Let me take a minute to talk about this great app. It is available for both desktop and mobile. Each week I strive to be more productive than the previous week. Since I started using it, I have more cautious where I spend a lot of my time because I always love when my report indicates 70% productivity. That is my target because I think 100% would be extreme.
I recommend you try it out and begin being accountable for where you spend your time.
9. Which goals did I accomplish?
You are your best judge.
10. Did I spend some time doing what I love?
Regardless of where you are; whether you love your job or not; did you take some time to just do what makes you happy?
11. Did I create time for the people that matter?
Aha, did you go for that date? And, did you call your parents? Did you meet up with your buddies?
Beginning of the month
There is almost no clear line between the end of the month and the beginning of the month, except flipping the calendar. When it comes to the personal growth questions, your beginning of the month questions help you to make commitments and identify what you really want that month.
1. What am I passionate about?
This takes time to find out. Train your mind to think of something that gives you absolute joy. Be intentional with your work and you will truly know what you are passionate about. Also, each month comes with a new project you are passionate about. Just write it down, you do not have to do it but you will begin attracting it in your life.
2. Have I set my goals for the month?
I can only help you with a template.
3. Will I remain committed to my goals?
Even with the template, you still have to be willing and dedicated to work on your goals. When making such commitments I feel anxious kinda, do you? I always ask myself what will happen if I let myself down? But that shouldn’t worry you – because you are always doing your best.
4. How can I eliminate one distraction in my life?
Which app do you need to uninstall? What is stealing your time that you are fed up with?
5. Will I make time for the important stuff?
First and foremost, what is the important stuff? Three principles: God, my family and my job. But I will add something, you. You are important too and hence will you make time for yourself?
6. Am I being and acting grateful?
How can I express my gratitude? Will I say thank you more often? Do I promise not to take advantage or use anybody?
7. What is my priority?
Just for this month, what are you willing to focus on? Honestly, this is a challenging question especially if you want to do a number of things together. However, there should be one thing you are willing to put maximum effort in. Maybe it is reading a book, creating a routine, starting one habit.
From experience, this energy lasts for the first few days of the month. As time goes on and things start feeling uncomfortable, you want to resume to your comfort state. A good excuse I like to give is that I will start next week or I am waiting for a new week! If that is you too, it is time to make a promise of commitment for yourself. It does not have to be the beginning of a week.
8. How can I enjoy what I already have?
I recently watched a TED Talk (yeah, I watch too many I guess) on how much is enough. (Consider watching it please.) Most of the time, we already have enough but greed makes us want more and more. I have been caught in this trap of saying that because I don’t have this or that, I can’t be satisfied. This month, start to enjoy that which you already have. Stop waiting to get more so that you can enjoy your life. Love your life as it is now and that is why we guide you as to how you can love your life and spread love.
I chose annually as the title for this section but the idea is that once in a while you should do an audit of your life. It does not mean that you cannot ask yourself these personal growth questions more than once in a year. The questions are sort of long term and continuous hence with every question you look towards achieving greater dreams and providing value to the world.
- What is my current biggest dream?
- What values do I stand for?
- Who would I be if money was not an issue?
- What is my purpose in life?
- What am I most proud of?
These are my 5 favorite personal growth questions from Napoleon Hill’s Think Big and Grow Rich:
- Have I delivered service of the best possible quality of which I was capable, or could I have improved any part of the service?
- Have I improved my personality? If so, in what ways?
- Have I been persistent in following my plans through to completion?
- Have I permitted any fear to decrease my efficiency? List them if any.
- Have I followed the habit of budgeting my time, my expenses and income? Have I been conservative in these budgets?
Personal growth gets harder before it gets easier. When I started focusing more on myself, I found out stuff about me that I was not even willing to accept. Of course, I turned to blame everybody around me – my relationship, friendships, and even family. However, at the end of it all, it was just me. As I became more honest with myself, asking why I did/felt the way I did, I got answers. Now, I am more aware of who I am. As soon as you truly realize yourself, go back to your personal growth goals and adjust them to first address the root causes of the challenges you have to achieve your goals.
There is a whole lot to talk about in personal growth but for now, I wish to press pause and look forward to an exciting new month with a new theme. You can also tell me what else you want me to talk about through social media or by sending me an email. Subscribe to the newsletter as well and be the first to know what the new theme is.