Patience! Patience! It is a virtue. It has gone under the drain especially for us millennials. We want it all now. We do not know what it means to wait and enjoy the fruits later. Instant gratification is the desire to experience pleasure or fulfillment without delay. Do you know of pyramid schemes? We are getting duped too easily because of the greed we have to get to the top faster. So how do you know that you instant gratification or lack of enough patience is what is delaying your success?
Have you ever passed by a restaurant and the smell of food just made you grab a meal? Do you feel like having a lot of money now will make you happier? How often do you save and what percentage compared to your earnings? Do you owe somebody money yet you are out spending your money carelessly? Are you losing hope in your journey to weight loss just because you cannot see the results now?
I don’t think patience is something that any of us grow up with in a large dose. It’s a world of instant gratification. ~ Tim Cope.
Instant gratification is the dilemma that our generation is facing. We do not know how to be patient and wait for what we deserve. As I was growing up, this is something my parents made me aware of. I was taught to wait until I got what I wanted. The minute we see things not going our way, we begin to lose hope and our dreams get crushed. Businesses are failing each and every day because we want success now.
It is very tempting to want something and want it now. Social media is my greatest example of instant gratification. When starting out, you start with 0 followers – yeah a whopping 0! Soon enough you will come across a platform to buy likes and followers. Let’s weigh: It will take you tons of effort and months to gain followers vs It will take you one day and a couple shillings/dollars to get a massive following. Which one do you choose?
Financial burdens are increasing day in day out. Why? Remember the instant loans? We cannot control ourselves. We want everything and we want it now. You will be broke forever if you do not watch out because businesses are taking advantage of this weakness and turning it to profit. Think of it, instant coffee maker, instant food, instant loans etc. Everything is instant further reducing your ability to learn patience and delay gratification.
Lack of patience is causing you to give up so quickly, you even give up on yourself. It makes you broke, frustrated, less energetic and motivated, gain loads of pounds and finally less creative. All this is why success is not knocking on our doors. Why? Because there can never be an instant success!!
What to do?
Limit the time you spend online. Have some time especially before going to bed and after waking up, to reflect on yourself and your goals; both short-term and long-term goals.
As we get past our superficial material wants and instant gratification we connect to a deeper part of ourselves, as well as to others, and the universe. ~ Judith Wright.
Set for yourself a realistic time frame to achieve your goals. In order to avoid giving up, ensure that you set small and very achievable milestones. These milestones will give you the energy to keep fighting on and eventually you will achieve the main goal.
Avoid doing things you know will regret tomorrow. Ask yourself these questions: Will I regret doing what I am about to do tomorrow? After doing [whatever it is] will my status change to be better or worse? Is doing [whatever it is] bringing me closer to my goal?
This is the hardest. Buy yourself a treat (e.g. a box of chocolate, a packet of sweets or whatever you love the most), take a piece each week if and only if you have avoided all temptations and have made a step towards delaying gratification e.g. you didn’t purchase the burger you really wanted!
You need to make an effort to improve your patience and you have to do it now before it is too late.
After delayed gratification comes greater reward, better profit and greater glory. ~ Sunday Adelaja.
Life is not and will never be easy. The best things in life take time. When it comes to achieving great things in life, you must, I repeat, you must be patient. One thing I always tell myself whenever I look at successful people is that they never woke up and found themselves there. If you dig deep into success stories; they went through times when everything failed and they had to wait and hope for a time like now. Each successful person had to start somewhere. They did not start with massive success; they had to go through the process.
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