In a recent post, I wrote about why you need to dream and dream big. Then I asked myself, what is the point of dreaming if you will not chase those dreams? I recently discovered that the main reason why we are afraid to chase our dreams is because we fear failure. How then can we overcome fear of failure? If you did not fear failure, you would have the courage to start anything. Chasing our dreams brings us closer to happiness and fulfillment. Wouldn’t it be amazing to accomplish something in life? Let’s find out how!
There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure. ~ Paulo Coelho
Fear of failure is something that I have personally experienced. Before I started blogging, I had so many fears and concerns. Of the many fears was the fear of failure. Your mind, just like mine, will always trick you into thinking of everything that you need and do not have. I felt like I was not a good fit in the market, I feared that nobody would discover me and I feared that this idea would be an epic fail.
What was worse is that the more I kept researching, the more my fears were confirmed. But they say that it is better to try and fail than to have never tried at all. When you overcome failure and choose to start, you begin a new phase in your life. You get to realize it is not as bad as you thought. My fears developed to strengths. I wanted to prove to myself a point.
If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want ~ Richard Yates.
Furthermore, what is failure?
Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement. ~ C.S. Lewis
To me, failure is an illusion created in our heads. Most of the times, when you start doing something new, be it business, a hobby or a class, you want to see immediate success. We have not trained our minds the ability to wait in order to see results. Some companies record profits after one or more years of operation. These same companies later become the best in the industry.
Never be afraid to fail. Failure is only a stepping stone to improvement. ~ Tony Jaa.
You define your failure. This starts with comparing yourself to others. The fact that we all have something unique in ourselves that nobody else possesses means that we all have a chance to succeed in life. There is something you do that only you can do or there is something you do that only you can do it the way you do. Some say that the market is saturated but I believe there is room for everybody to try.
Dealing with Failure.
Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. ~ Denis Waitley
Honestly, this fear exists because others have failed. Who are we not to fail? That brings me to say that sometimes failure is inevitable. It is a way to learn something new. It is the reason to keep working smart, not be complacent and why we need to constantly read so that we do not make mistakes that have been made before.
I have never heard a success story without some failures along the way. Good news: You are not alone. They failed and woke up, so should you. It is easier said than done. It is painful to fail and it tears you down. The beauty is that you choose how far down you will allow the failure to take you.
Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit. ~ Napoleon Hill
It may be the most difficult time of your life. Time heals. Fill yourself up with motivation and start planning on taking the next step. Learn from the mistakes you made. If need be, write down what you think went wrong and research on how to do it better. Gather yourself up with the new lessons and go for it. Do not stop until you get where you want to go.
Failure happens and when it does, you will deal with it. The trick to overcoming failure is to just start. Close your eyes, forget your fears and just go for it. You will learn in the job/process. There is no amount of research that will prevent you from failing if you do not start.
You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. ~ Johnny Cash
There is beauty is starting small. When you start small, your audience may not be large. Take this time as an advantage to learn more about your industry as you grow your audience. This way, mistakes are not really felt and may not have a huge impact. It is the time to be on the lookout for upcoming trends and come up with new ideas. During this time, even if you fail and remain positive, you will definitely have a way of coming back stronger and faster.
Whatever your dream is; to start a particular class, to join a particular team or to be something, do not give up before you start. My advice is to start small. Do not underestimate anything and do not rush it. Make sure you are putting in enough effort and are doing your best. Learn from your mistakes and continue doing research. Nobody can stop you except you!
Always remember that you cannot know what success is unless you fail. Be courageous and think of failure as a stepping stone rather than something fatal. Even the great men and women have failed at least once.